If you are like me you have struggled as a grandma this year thanks to the pandemic. Every day has been hard but this holiday season is the hardest.
I am a grandma to three granddaughters, two born this year during the pandemic. It has been hard. The joy of having two new babies to love has been squashed by my fear of contracting or spreading the coronavirus. My contacts with new granddaughters have been minimal, and this was not at all how I wanted to spend my first year with them.
The impact on their parents has been unfortunate as well. I haven't been as available as I would have liked to ease the challenge of welcoming new babies into their homes. Overnight visits from my three-year-old granddaughter were reduced and recently, eliminated. I have been reluctant to babysit or even visit in-person with family. It pains me.
I know some of you don't share my fears. I know some of you are refusing to let a virus curb your interactions with family. I know some of you traveled for Thanksgiving and plan to do the same for Christmas. This post is not for you.
For those of you feeling the struggle, it may help to know you are not alone. "Luckily, first reports on loneliness during the pandemic show that older adults have been resilient to loneliness, with an increase during first stages of social distancing, but leveling through stricter stay-at-home orders." source
How To Stay Connected
Technology
We have embraced technology in a big way. Video visits have become a daily activity. In general, our visits have been unscheduled and at the convenience of my children. Rather than referring to them as calls, I would characterize them as invitations from my kids to spend time in their homes. The video is on and real-life continues. There is no pressure to have a meaningful conversation. We chat, we watch dinner being made, and we catch special moments with our granddaughters. I look forward to these visits.
I'm grateful that through these video visits I have been able to see the new babies grow, to see them work on rolling over and eventually make that first rollover. I've watched them become aware of their hands and feet and then be able to grab and hold their toys. I've watched them eat their first mouthful of rice cereal and banana.
I'm grateful to have watched my three-year-old granddaughter tell me jokes, sing me songs, tell me stories about dinosaurs, show me her new, pink bedroom and her dance of the day.
When not visiting by video, pictures and video clips have brought many smiles. I'm grateful my kids have been good about sending frequent pictures and videos.
Read: Grandparents struggle with not seeing grandchildren during pandemic
Outdoor Visits
Until recently, we have managed to visit in-person, weather permitting. Thankfully, I've been able to hold my new granddaughters a few times during those outdoor visits. Thanksgiving was a washout so PaPa and I were alone with our 21-pound turkey.
Life in New England doesn't permit much outdoor visiting from December through March but I'm certain there will be opportunities. If you are lucky to live within a drivable distance to your grandkids you'll want to keep your eyes on the weather outlook so you can seize on opportunities for a quick outdoor visit.
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